Why You're Stuck in a Cycle of Self-Sabotage (And How to Break Free for Good)

Every New Year it happens... You get that feeling of "this is it" THIS is the year that I'll get my flat stomach. This is the year i'm going to blow up my business. This is the year I am going to get serious about making my dreams come true. 

And you can actually see and feel your future life flash before your eyes. 

You can see yourself making the trip to Italy in a beautiful flowy dress tasting the most surreal pasta you didn't know existed. 

You can see yourself in the cutest workout outfits. Showing off your perfectly tanned and lean muscles. 

You can see yourself receiving the keys to your dream home and parking your dream car in that very driveway. 

All because you know THIS year will be the year that you don't give up...no matter what. You're going to go full steam ahead. You know what to do, you know where your blocks are and you are ready baby! 

But come January 23rd, counterproductive thoughts start popping into your mind. Thoughts like:

"Well, I've been pretty good I can have today off"

"Nothing is working anyway, let me stop and regroup" 

"Ugh, I'm just so busy catching up- I'll make time for my goals later" 

"No.no. I'm not giving up. I'll restart after football season and for sure by summer I'll have the flat abs" 

and then what happens? Nothing. No progress. Deeper hole. All until the next year, when you are definitely sure THIS will be the year. 

This cycle is exhausting. But if you're able to recognize it, the good news is that it is actually quite easy to change. 

If there is one thing I know about women is that when they want something, they are going to get it. 

The only way a woman doesn't get what she wants is when she:

a) doesn't really want it

b) believes she doesn't really deserve it

c) She doesn't really believe that she can have it

And all three of those have to do with her subconscious programming. 

Let's say a woman says she wants to get married. Consciously she yearns for the days she gets a diamond ring on her finger. She can see herself dancing under the starlights to her wedding song in her white princess dress. She believes she really really wants that. The image in her head feels good. The romance of it warms her heart, she thinks she's all in.

But subconsciously, she knows the difference between a wedding and a marriage. She has deep buried memories of her parents fighting, her mom crying and her lonely childhood and the internal thought of a marriage feels like a safety hazard. 

Deep down she associates marriage with a prison and so she finds ways to reject all the men she comes across. To do something to jeopardize her relationships. And sometimes she goes as far as making sure feels as unattractive and undesirable as possible. P.S. this can happen even if she's already married!

But she doesn't know this consciously. Consciously she thinks she's crazy. She believes there's just something wrong with her that makes her unlovable. And she settles for that because that is what makes sense. 

Now let's take a woman who believes she wants to be fit. Consciously she is game for whatever it takes. She gets a gym membership, new workout clothes, stocks her fridge with healthy foods and even rearranges her schedule to fit in her new workout/cooking moments. 

But when the time comes to it, she feels sooo tired, that her body literally will not budge in even sitting up and putting on her workout shoes. Or she gets super busy and there's just no way she can make time for something that doesn't feel urgent. Or the classic...she gets sick and she determines that because her health "is" her priority she better just rest until she recuperates. 

Consciously, her fit body might take up a huge spot in her vision board but if subconsciously, she once used her body for something that made her feel shame, she might believe she doesn't deserve to be healthy. 

It might be something as simple as stealing sweets from the kitchen when her parents had specifically told her not to have them until after dinner. Or it might have been a sexual relationship that she ended up regretting. And it might even be some trauma related to her body that wasn't even her fault. 

It really doesn't matter because until she has that direct conversation with her subconscious she will keep thinking the problem is something else. She might think she's lazy, lacks will power or even attempt blaming it on a disease or illness. 

It won't be until she reprograms herself to believe she is absolutely deserving of her upgraded body that she will be able to make the changes. 

Finally, let's look at a woman who keeps trying to grow her business. She desperately wants to be a good business woman. She wants a fat bank account. She wants to be making a difference in peoples lives. She wants the freedom that comes with making all that money and she is all in. 

She's made heavy financial investments. Sacrificed her time to learn new skills and create content. She has a good heart and she is ready to take action. 

But nothing changes. No matter what she does, her numbers are always non-existent or really low. 

Well, she might not know this, but subconsciously she is programmed to believe that life just isn't for her. Maybe her mother told her she would never amount to anything when she was little. Or a boy made her feel unworthy in her teenage years. Maybe she was irresponsible with her money in the past and instead of growing from her mistakes she made them her identity. 

And all of that accumulated to her believing that she was just not capable of being a business women. Maybe she believes the economy is working against her, or that she's just not that likable or interesting. Can that programming be updated? absolutely. But not without her knowing what she's working with. 

So many women think that the way to treat problems in their life is by treating the symptoms. They think that if they just change their money mindset, or try their best to lose weight or try to make themselves perfect to find love and as a result they see either no results, or the things that they do attract just end up adding to their misery. 

BUT when a woman heals deep from within her subconscious, and finds the real programs running her choices she is able to shift...and shift quickly. 

Think about it. What are a few things that you are absolutely sure of? You might think things like "well, i'm sure i'm a woman." "i'm sure I eat everyday" "I'm sure i'm going to walk from my bed to the restroom every day"

Those are some pretty random things but because you are so sure about them you are going to not really think about them. You're not going to overthink if they're right or wrong. You're not going to have philosophies about them. You are just going to do them. 

That is how women who are programmed to be fit, wealthy and love feel. They don't overthink it. They just are. 

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